In what may be a foolhardy move, I’m going to take a dip in the controversy surrounding the song “Baby, It’s Cold Outside”. If you’ve missed this seasonal tempest in a teapot, the details are as follows. Radio stations in the United States and Canada dropped the 1940s hit tune from their holiday rotations when some listeners commented that the song was kind of creepy. The lyrics involve a conversation between a woman who says she needs to leave and a man who is trying to convince her to stay. It has been a holiday time standard for quite a while.
Here are my thoughts on the song.
First, it’s not a Christmas song. It has nothing to do with anything related to the holidays or the season. So if a station decides to drop it from their holiday rotation, I see no issue there.
Second, it’s not censorship, the inevitable cry at times like this. Every radio station in American has a list that contains millions of songs, literally millions of songs, that they do not play. Most of them are because they don’t fit the format. But there are songs that fit the format, were hits and have an audience that would love to hear them, that they don’t play. It’s a normal part of the music policy at EVERY STATION IN AMERICA. So let’s stop pretending that some great philosophical offense is taking place here.
Finally, the creepiness factor. The fact is that in its original social context, the song is a sly commentary on the morals of the day. At that time, there were no socially acceptable reasons for a woman to stay long into the night with a man who was not family or their spouse. It’s clear that there is a social negotiation going on here as the two try to find a way around the societal norms of the time.
And that’s the real point in 2018. We no longer live in those times under those norms. In a time when we are trying to make clear that “No means no”, this song is an anachronism. We are trying to create a world where this kinds of coy game playing is not only unnecessary but unwanted. The modern conversation in the song should be that it’s cold outside, do you want to stay? Her response is either yes or no, and he accepts the decision.
I find it hard to believe that anyone wants to return to the days represented by the song. So we hardly need to memorialize it with a song that has no other redeeming values as part of a modern radio station playlist. If you like the song, listen to it. If it bothers you, then don’t. But let’s not pretend that this is any kind of big deal.
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